Rewards are a common tool parents use to motivate and encourage their children to perform certain activities such as cleaning the house or getting good grades in school. When children accomplish these goals, a reward is used to say “You did a great job.” Therefore, rewards are considered desirable and stimulating.
Before a reward can be given, a goal needs to be set. Setting positive goals such as getting good grades in school or helping out around the house encourages our children to really participate and grow in both the school setting and in the family home. Other types of positive, personal growth goals could be to encourage healthy behavior. Healthy behavior includes activities such as taking a walk three times a week or healthy food goals such as eating a certain number of fruits and vegetables daily.
Once we set positive goals with our children, it is also important to set positive rewards:
Some examples of healthy reward for children ages 3-9:
Some examples of healthy rewards for children ages 9-13:
Some examples of healthy rewards for children ages 13-18:
Remember: Anything can be used as a reward. Find out what your children really like to do and use that as their rewards. Children ultimately want their parent’s attention and praise, so when your child does something right or something that you really appreciate, give him/her verbal admiration. The most powerful reward we can give is our love and our praise.
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